I’ve noticed a pattern. Some of the people who talk the most about “healing” are also the quickest to gossip, shame, mock, and attack others online. They’ve learned the language, but not the lesson.

Healing should make you more accountable, more compassionate, and less consumed by your own insecurities, not more convinced you’re always the victim. Character is revealed by what you do when you choose to lash out at people who weren’t bothering you in the first place, not by the polished explanations you offer after your own meanness catches up with you.

If you’re constantly bothered by people who aren’t bothering you, that’s not healing. That’s a problem.

If you’re constantly waiting for a response from the people you’re attacking so you can convince yourself you’re not the problem, you’re the problem.

At some point, perpetual victimhood stops looking like bad luck.

Just an observation.