Who do you spend the most time with and why?
My husband and I love it! He just makes me happy and makes me feel safe and loved.
We’ve somehow managed to be together almost 15 years and we still really like each other..🤣
I think a big reason for that is we’re both natural givers and nurturers. When both people are wired that way, it creates a safe, generous space that makes long-term happiness possible.
Notice I didn’t say long-term relationship, because the two aren’t always the same. Just being together for a long time doesn’t mean you’re happy.
We’ve both been in unhealthy relationships before (with takers and ppl that are not nurturing at all) and it’s exhausting. It slowly drains your joy, your energy, even your sense of self. But when two people are monogamous, giving, and nurturing, it can be a truly beautiful thing. That’s something I already tell my kids to look for, not in love, but in friendships.
Of course, not everyone is a nurturer, and that’s okay. But if you are, it’s important to be with someone who doesn’t expect you to carry the emotional load alone. Otherwise, even in a “good” relationship, you’ll always feel like something’s missing.
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